I Am Contemplating Divorce In Florida. What Are Some Mistakes I Should Avoid During The Divorce Process?
As a divorce attorney, there are a number of mistakes that I see frequently that can damage the divorce and its outcome. If you avoid these common errors, your odds of getting a good outcome from your divorce will increase.
First, make a plan. You may have found out your husband has been cheating, which is devastating. As a result, you marched down to the courthouse the same day, filled out a divorce packet yourself, and had him served the divorce papers immediately. While that is an understandable reaction to the news, you should have paused and done some planning.
Meeting with a divorce attorney and a financial planner and gathering necessary paperwork you may need can increase your odds of success. Once he finds out a divorce is on the horizon, you may find yourself locked out of accounts and unable to obtain the documentation you need.
Next, create a financial plan. You will need money to pay for an attorney as well as to rearrange your life pre- and post-divorce. You may need somewhere else to stay or extra help with childcare. Start planning now. You may need to cut back on your expenses, pick up an extra job, or start selling things. Take those steps right away.
Do not send nasty emails or text messages to your ex, or talk badly about him or her online. While it feels great in the moment, it’s very likely your words will come back to haunt you later. Do not click send and then regret what you wrote a moment later.
You should also not settle your case quickly with a result you don’t like in order to put it behind you, with the plan of coming back later and changing it. It is hard to change a divorce settlement after the fact. Try to get what you can live with now.